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Childhood Temper Tantrums

When is it a Problem

• Temper tantrums are actually a normal, healthy part of chld development. They indicate that the c hild is feeling a sense of growing independence, which is good. Whem temper tantrums are extremely emotional or involve the child using self-harming behaviors, you may want to consider consulting with a mental health professional.

Solution

• One of the most important things is to be consistent with your child. This means never giving into a temper tantrum. Your child will not focus on the ten times you didn't they will remember the one time that yu did give in. Remember: Say what you mean and mean what you say.
• Time-Out the tantrums right away, even if they are in a public place. You can gently guide a child to a remote corner of any room and wait. Do not even sneak a peak at a child it they are having a tantrum-this will prolong it. (do no t look at the chld, just be witnin eyesight so you can see your child and he or she can see you.
• Don't make negative comments about the tantrums. They are n ormal, but your goal is to teach your child appropriate wayts to cope when he or she is upset. Instead, offer your child suggestions when he/she is upset. or say, "You can be upset and have an tantrum. If you know you are really mad. When you stop crying, we will be able to play the game." This normalizes th e child's feeling--it is okay to be upset sometimes.
• Be realistic about time spent out in public with your child. Children have a very short attention span and tire very easily. Plan to allow them to take snacks, small toys, and games to amuse th emselves when they go with you on excursions. If you notice th at they are starting to become whiny or irritable, it is probably time for you to take them home and let them have a nap.
• Use a Tantrum Tamer's Chart. Reward the child with stickers when he/she is able to shorten the time the tantrum lasts, or when he/she uses an alternative way of sepressing himself/herself, such as saying, "I'm upset. I don;t want to go home now."

Credits: Center for Child and Families Services Inc.

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